Romance Essential Oils

Ylang Ylang

Helps balance hormones, promotes healthy skin and hair, and is calming. The name ylang ylang means "flower of flowers." It is also traditional remedy for infections skin diseases.

Essential Oils



Neroli oil

Can help to relieve tension and is said to be an aphrodisiac.

Clary sage



Considered aphrodisiacal and relaxing, it also has a rejuvenative effect.

Black pepper



Lemon Verbena

I have not seen it in the literature, but I know a woman for whom this works very well.


Essential oils should not come into contact with condoms, as the oil may damage them and cause them to be ineffective.

Be sure to spot test the oils and test for allergies or skin sensitivities. Nothing will ruin the mood like a rash, bad itch, or pain. Of course, if your partner is into pain, try some peppermint on the genitals.

Be very careful about using the oils near eyes. Carefully consider where to put the diffuser.

Not all oils are edible.

Carrier oils

For romance, scent is extremly important. Women have a keener sense of smell than men. A carrier oil I do not recommend is sesame oil, because it has its own scent that will combine with the essential oil scent.

Methods of use

Use your imagination,or try some of these suggestions.

Essential Oil Books and references

  1. The Complete Illustrated Guide to Aromatherapy, by Julia Lawless, Barnes & Noble Inc., 1997
  2. 500 Formulas for Aromatherapy, Carol Schiller and David Schiller,Sterling Publishing Co., Inc., 1994
  3. The Complete Book of Essintial Oils & Aromatherapy, by Valerie Ann Worwood, New World Library, 1991
  4. The Illustrated Encyclopedia of Healing Remedies, by C. Norman Shealy MD, PhD, HarperCollinsPublishers, 1998
  5. The healing Intelligence of Essential Oils, By Kurt Schnaubelt, Ph.D. Healing Arts Press, 2011